From the outside looking in, 30 may seem like the new 20 but it ain't. Maybe because of changes in the economy and technological advances life has become more complicated so it takes us until we're 30 to accomplish what people used to be able to accomplish by the time they were 20 so it seems like 30 is the new 20. Based on my personal experiences because I don't look like I'm 30, most people see me and don't think I'm a day over 21 until they see my 7 year old daughter and start praying that I wasn't a teenage mom, then 30 seems like the new 20? Maybe because of all of the pollution and toxins in the air and the fast food we eat more and more of us suffer from adult onset acne so is this why 30 seems like the new 20?
But serioiusly, 30 is not the new 20! If you experiment with life and relationships in your 20's like you should, then 30 brings wisdom with it that you'd never have at 20. I think people want 30 to be the new 20 because they are afraid to face the change the turning 30 brings with it.
They are afraid to face themselves and turning 30 forces you to realize yourself on another level. But at 30 I love myself more than I ever have and I appreciate everything that is coming with this transition. When I was 20 I wasn't looking forward to 30, but 30 has me looking forward to 40!
Those os us who are turning 30 this year may feel like we haven't acheived what we thought we would by the this time in our lives or we may feel like we're behind schedule with our life plans because by the time our parents were 30 they owned homes and had children, but times have changed!
Let's take a look at the differences between 20 and 30.
When I was 20 my relationships with other people didn't matter to me as much as spending time getting to know myself. I thought I could do it all with or without anyone by myside. I didn't care if people liked me or not. But at 30 I know that life is based on your relationships with other people and all relationships have consequences.
I've always had a socially responsible mindset, but in my 20's I thought in your face activism was the answer . . . marches, rallies, protests, boycotts! At 30 I know that there are no political solutions to spiritual problems . . . and sometimes what you do doesn't matter as much as who you know and who likes you. At 30 I find that the more I act inward through meditation, the more actual impact I have on the world and other around me.
When I was 20 I had very little life experience. My perception of everything was based on what I read, assumed or heard. I could approach life as unchartered territory without fear because I was anxious to experience life and experiment because I knew I hadn't lived yet. At 20 I still had dreams of being married to my soul mate by the time I was 25 and having 4 children by the time I was 30. WOAH! I thought I'd be one member of a power couple like Will & Jada. But, at 30 I'm a single mom and loving it! Even with all the challenges of single motherhood I've learned that a village of women tand sisterfriends that help with the care giving of my child is better than a husband who doesn't help at all. Family and friends are more important to me than romantic relationships.
At 20 I had a relaxer in my hair, but at 30 I've gone all natural and realized that my hair actually isn't nappy or as curly as I thought.
At 20 I barely weighed 100 lbs while at 30 I'm almost 140 lbs. At 20 I was dancing my ass off in a dance company, but now that I'm 30 I don't dance anywhere near as much so my body isn't as flexible, but because I am practicing yoga my mind is more flexible.
When I was 20 I knew very little of stretch marks, now I know them all too welllol but I'm loving my body more than ever! New wisdom has allowed me to be comfortable in my own skin and to have actually learned what is best for my skin; not any medicine based products but all natural shea butter and black soap . . . I'm getting back to my roots.
At 20 I wrote poetry almost daily on anything I could get my hands on from napkins to used envelopes while walking across campus . . . at 30 I'm lucky if I write a poem in a notebook once a month and instead I'm writing blogs at least once a week. At 20 research was only something I did for school, while at 30 research as become a daily ritual.
At 20 I thought I knew alot but still had a little to learn. At 30 I know that I know very little and will never be finished learning because life is about learning, laughing, loving and growing. . . love's purpose is not to save you but to transform you.
Most importantly, I have realized that I am not the diva I thought I was when I was 20 because at 30 I am a goddess rising
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